#83 - Self-Accountability is the SECRET SAUCE
Summary
Do you ever feel like you can't follow-through you on your commitments? That you tend to flake out? That the only way you can get shit done is if you have someone there to hold you accountable?
I get it. I used to feel like that too! In fact, that was the whole reason that I got my start in coaching because I was a fitness accountability coach. Showing up for my clients kept me committed and accountable to showing up for myself. And don't get me wrong, I think there' s a time and place for getting accountability from others. Hell, I'm a coach! My business depends upon that...
But I also think that at some point, we've gotta go it alone. We've gotta step out of what can sometimes be the SAFETY of that group accountability environment and see: "can I really show up just for me?" In fact, it's something I encouraged with my clients as a fitness coach and something I still encourage! My goal is always that, for whatever that person came to me for, that they will get to a point where they don't need me anymore. That I've taught them enough that they can handle it on their own!
But, self-accountability can be hard! So, today I want to give you my top 3 tips for how to create more SELF-accountability! Because self-accountability, truly is the secret sauce. And if you can be accountable to yourself + to the commitments you've made to you and no one else, damn friend, you're going to go far in this life!
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WHAT I TALK ABOUT…
Accountability - There is a time and a place for group accountability, but the importance of getting to a point where you can rely on yourself to get things done…
Finishing Morning Meltdown 100
What it is…100 workouts in 100 days
Why? To show myself that I could make this kind of a commitment to myself again!
3 Tips to Level Up Your Self-Accountability
Find a Deep, Empowering Why.
We often show up in our goals with a really shallow, surface-level, superficial why
Your reason why is often a lot deeper than that
How to figure out your deeper, empowering why
What goal do you want to hit by the end of the year?
Why do you want to hit that goal? Your first why is going to be surface-level, dig deeper…
Ask yourself why again….and again…and again….It’s going to take probably 5, 6, 7, 8x to figure out what the real why is
Why is this so important? When you don’t have motivation or discipline, having a deeper why is going to help you show up on the bad days…
Create a routine around your goal
Routines aren’t sexy, but they’re necessary
The myth that routines limit your freedom! NOT TRUE! They actually free you up…
Routines become habits and free you up
BONUS TIP: Build your routine into your morning! It’s when you have the most discipline and willpower…
Change your language - “I can’t” to “I don’t…”
“I can’t skip my workout…” changes to “I don’t skip my workout
Why? I can’t feels like obligation, like a ball-and-chain…whereas “I don’t” ties it more to an identity level.
“I don’t” adopts whatever that thing is as part of your identity…
“This is part of my identity. I don’t do this. That’s not who I am…”
“When you adopt something as part of your identity, self-accountability gets so damn much easier…”
BONUS: Identity is one of the highest levels of the logical levels of change. If you can change yourself at an identity level, it trickles down and empowers you in the rest of your life!
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