#82 - How to STOP dieting, beating yourself up and feeling like sh*t ft. Wellness Lately
The first time I remember having body image issues, I was a pre-teen...and the person who told me I was fat was a family member.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
That's actually the first time I have said that in a public space...but it's true and it wasn't the last time either. Basically, body image has been a constant struggle for me throughout my life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
That's why when the babes of @wellness_lately asked about coming on the podcast and talking about diet culture, I knew that it was going to happen. Because these conversations can never be had enough.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Today on the podcast, we've got the babes of @wellness_lately, Bridget and Dana, and we're talking about all things diet culture and diet mentality. So many of us have been conditioned in what Bridget and Dana called a "fat-phobic" society to fear food, putting weight and feel shamed because we're not 6-packed, long-limbed Victoria Secret models...and to put it simply, that ain't right.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Bridget and Dana has made it their mission to help women recovering from the diet mentality and from struggles with body image to release diet mentality and take back their lives from this toxic culture through intuitive eating.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Pumped to hear what you think! Head to coachellyn.com/podcast for show notes and don’t forget to tag me @coachellyn and @wellness_lately when you listen!
WHAT WE TALK ABOUT…
Bridget and Dana start off by telling us their personal stories and struggles with weight, body image, diet culture and what led them to want to wake other women up to the diet culture trance
Transitioning from a disordered approach to health and wellness to intuitive eating
Starting at the desire to “fix the binge” and learning to shit the mindset problems + psychological deprivation around food. When we remove the diet + weight loss goals, the problematic behavior can go away…
Why Dieting Doesn’t Work + How All You’re Doing is Depriving Yourself of Nutrients
The Minnesota Starvation Diet - A study to learn how to rehabilitate persons who were starved. The researchers semi-starved these people and the shocking psychological effects on these men to the point where they had to end their participation and send them to psych hospitals. These are often the same emotions we experience when dieting, which can include:
Loss of Sexual Drive
No longer wanting to pursue your passions
Emotional Eating and whether it’s healthy/normal. It wouldn’t be a problem if we didn’t live in a fat-phobic culture. Emotional eating often is binge eating…
Is my emotional eating actually problematic or am I afraid of gaining weight?
Do you want other coping skills?
What is intuitive eating? A framework for approaching eating, exercising, etc. Be guided by internal cues vs. rules and restrictions of others.
Start by rejecting the diet mentality
Eating to feel good in our bodies
Bringing in Exercise
Recognizing that it’s unique to you and allowing yourself to go through the process of figuring out what that is for you
Discover the satisfaction + pleasure in eating again
Food Anthropologist - Observing and noticing your negative thoughts. The importance of being non-judgmental.
When you’re getting started in your wellness, the importance of picking a starting point and why food (your FUEL) might be the best place to start
Your relationship with food probably says a lot about your relationship with yourself and it’s about HEALING that…
The importance of support + accountability along the process to fast track it and give you the support you need
Resources in this episode:
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About Today’s Guests…
Wellness Lately is a wellness brand and business created by Bridget Shannon and Dana Barron. Together they represent a team of holistic health coaches, Intuitive Eating enthusiasts, podcasters and “insatiably curious weirdos who could talk about this stuff all day.”
By this stuff, they mean wellness, diet culture, and helping women “be well” by getting away from diet culture, trusting their bodies and empowering them to live more + diet way the f*** less.
As they said on their website:
“We’ve been in the wellness industry for a long time. We’ve seen a lot of bullshit. And we firmly believe that for most of us adult, female humans, wellness has very little to do with açaí bowls, lycra or having your photographer boyfriend casually snap a pic of you in tree pose on a cliff somewhere.
It doesn’t have much to do with trying to keep up with Gwyneth or listening to Dr. Oz or making gluten-free, organic, non-gmo, spinach pasta from scratch every night.
Real wellness isn’t airbrushed and you shouldn’t have to pee on a keto strip to see if you’re doing it right.
For most of us muggles, wellness is about not feeling like shit – mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually – as we attempt to go about the business of living.
As we try to manage having a career. Taking care of the tiny (or regular-sized) humans around us. Having friends. Paying bills. Figuring out how our new town recycles. Getting our cars inspected. Paying taxes. Learning how to use makeup like an adult. Sending thank you notes. Handling complex emotions. And taking our vitamins.
We have a ton of shit to do.
And wellness is about figuring out how to do all of that shit without losing ourselves, eating like trash cats or crying alone on our couch in sweatpants drinking wine.
It’s about attempting to love ourselves – and our bodies – in a diet culture that’s constantly telling us we don’t deserve to.
One that’s saying “Here’s a night cream, that costs $107 a month, that will fix all of your problems, which, by the way, stem from your utter inability to stop aging and maintain an unrealistic, manufactured level of physical perfection that doesn’t include wrinkles or cellulite.”
That’s what we’re about around here.
“Intuitive Eating” - Evelyn Tribole - click here
“Health at Every Size” - Linda Bacon - click here
“Self-Compassion” - Dr. Kristen Neff - click here
“The Fuck it Diet” - click here
“Body Respect” - Linda Bacon - click here
“Beyond Beautiful” - click here
“Food Psych Podcast by Christy Harrison” - click here
“Redefining Wellness Campaign” - click here
“The Beauty Health” - click here