#111 - Dolce Far Niente: Taking a Page from Eat Pray Love

July 28, 2020 Ellyn | Burnout Coach & Speaker

Summary

Movie references for the win because, say what you want about Eat Pray Love, but they NAILED the high-achiever, hustler mentality...

There's this one scene in the movie Eat Pray Love where this man name Luca Spaghetti of all things makes some bold, absurdly accurate - in my opinion - claims about Americans. He talks about how we burn ourselves out, feeling like we have to earn pleasure and play, and, honestly, as culturally stereotypical as it is, it's so true!

Because for me? I have gone WEEKS without taking a TRUE day off. I have STRUGGLED with feeling like I had to EARN my downtime. I have felt that feeling like my WORTHINESS + VALIDATION are dependent upon what I produce.

In this podcast episode, we'll be exploring the meaning of the phrase dolce far niente - which translates to the "sweetness of doing nothing." We'll be getting incredibly self-aware about how we FEEL about that saying, and I'll be issuing a CHALLENGE to those of us that struggle with this notion of DOING NOTHING! Can't wait to share it with you!

For show notes, head to coachellyn.com/podcast and, of course, if you have any questions or want to connect, head on over to @coachellyn on Instagram.

ACTION STEPS:

#1 - Ask yourself, when is the last time you gave yourself a TRUE day off?! No chores, no plans, no appointments, and NO to-dos…
- This is important for getting yourself aware of how long it’s been for you. For me, the first time I asked myself this question this year, I realized it had been weeks. Maybe even months…and that didn’t sit well with me
- How does it sit with you to know how long it’s been since you gave yourself time off?
- #2 - WHY do you think that is? Do you feel like you have to earn it? Do you feel like productivity makes you a worthy human? Why do you think that is?
  - Again. This is really about getting self-aware.
  - #3 - THE CHALLENGE: Schedule yourself a day with NO PLANS! A day where you’re ONLY doing things that feel good…that ARE NOT checking boxes…
    - And a BONUS CHALLENGE: Schedule a DAY WITH NO PLANS every 2 weeks for the next 3 months!

RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE:

The Take Back Your Time, Take Back Your Life Planner - Get your copy here and crush your goals!
Learn More About 1-on-1 Coaching to Help You Take Back Your Damn Life
- Or DM me on Instagram
- Eat Pray Love - “Dolce Far Niente” Scene - click here