I remember a long time ago when I started writing a blog post (that never made it to a blog!) about the phrase “
I never finished the article because I couldn’t come up with much else to say at the time. And then this Article surfaced from the CrossFit community…
FRAILTY, THY NAME IS WOMAN?
Now, before I say anything else about
Akinwale goes on to say that she loves the CrossFit community, the fact that it has made muscles and strength sexy, and has given women a place where not only are they given equal pay and
Also, please realize that I am not a CrossFit-er (yet!). I would love to try it, but at this point in my life, financially I have never been able to afford a membership to try it out. But I avidly follow some of the top CrossFit athletes on social media, I watch the games, and have since 2013.
Now, Akinwale did not call out ANY woman in this article, but our wonderful media sources have brought many women into this conversation who they believe fit the “post a lot of videos of their cleavage and stuff” category. These CrossFit athletes, who HAVE had success on the CrossFit stage I might add, include women like Jackie Perez (IG | Crossfit), Andrea Ager (IG | Crossfit), Miranda Oldroyd (IG | CrossFit), Christmas Abbott (IG | CrossFit), among many others.
DOVE VS. VICTORIA’S SECRET
Similarly to this, is the seeming battle between the DOVE vs Victoria’s Secret Beauty Campaigns.
Dove, though, decided to defend the honor of all the offended, more curvaceous women in America by launching the REAL BEAUTY Campaign. I get it. The idea is that they want to demonstrate to Victoria’s Secret and society that there are other beautiful body types too and we should celebrate those. But, look at what they’re suggesting! They’re suggesting that real beauty comes in these shapes, not the shapes of those Victoria’s Secret models. So isn’t this the same thing?
Our society fat shames, skinny shames, curvy shames, etc. It’s all shaming in one form or another
I understand! I get it! People who embrace and love their plus-sized figure, their curves, their size 00-ness, and long, skinny limbs….all of those people want to be included! All of those people want to feel accepted and beautiful in a society that is stuck on stereotypes. But isn’t saying things like “real women have curves” being just as judgmental to the women that don’t have curves as the VS campaign is being to the women that aren’t
WHAT IF WE DIDN’T LET MARKETING OR MEDIA INFLUENCE WHAT WE THOUGHT OF OURSELVES?
The bottom line is that both of these situations are examples where our interpretations of advertisements, marketing strategies, or the way in which something is skewed. Let me say that again – these are our interpretations. These things shine a light on our insecurities, making us feel like we are less than what we are.
So as a result, what do we do? Marketing strategists come up with a way to bring other people down to our level. They come with a strategy that the offended party can get behind…and that’s exactly what happens. We get behind it, and the cycle of dis-inclusion continues.
But, why? Why can’t we just realize that we ARE perfect in our bodies? Whether we love and accept ourselves or we are seeking to get in better shape and change. Why can’t we just understand and embrace that love without feeling the need to single out those that aren’t
Yes, changes need to be made in the media and in sponsorship. That’s a given. But, if we expect anything to change there, we need to first change ourselves. Period.
Women need to change the way they speak to and about each other. Women need to create a culture of inclusion, not
We need to change the way we speak to ourselves. We need to quit looking at those rolls in our stomach, thick thighs, whatever is we stare at, judge and critique and thinking of those things as a bad thing. We need to stop defining ourselves by our physical imperfections, and start realizing that our personalities and characteristics are of much more value. Whether you want to change your body, get in shape, or not. You ARE beautiful. And the moment you start believing that, the less of a need you will have to tear down someone else for their physicality.
If we change ourselves, one person at a time, we will change society. Period.
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